Every person is born and most of the people in the world celebrate their birthdays. But why? Why is this celebration happening? Why do we really want to gather and celebrate together?
Do we really want to celebrate the birthday in order to just gather together, drink and eat? Or does this birthday means something much more than that?
I believe the birthday should represent the person who is having the birthday. It is a small representation of who this person is, what his life is, what this person values. And this is the foundation of The Giving Birthday.
The Giving Birthday

The essential idea behind the Giving Birthday is to celebrate your birthday in a meaningful for you way. What do you value? What do you find meaningful to do? Celebrate it on your birthday!
The Name
It was really hard to choose a word for this idea. Giving, Meaningful, Personal, Sharing, and many more words were options. Only one word cannot describe the fullness of the idea behind it. If we stick to only one word, then we can miss all other possibilities. That’s why the logo contains the most common words people may associate with the idea.
The word ‘Giving’ was chosen because of the desire of giving and sharing with people. It represent the giving of the birthday person. The birthday person is not seen as someone who receives gifts from the world around him, but is seen as a person who gives gifts, gives meaning to the world around. He is giving and sharing to the world what he finds for meaningful and valuable.
Asking ourselves questions
If we want to make meaningful and valuable birthdays, then not only the birthday person, but also all the people there should ask themselves basic questions like:
- What do I find meaningful to do on this birthday?
- What do I find valuable on this birthday?
- What do I want to give on the birthday? To the birthday person or to the other people.
Questions for givers of presents:
- Does the birthday person values what I want to give?
- Does the birthday person needs what I want to give?
- Is what I am giving coming from my heart?
Questions for the birthday person:
- Is what I am doing really representing what I love to do?
- Is what I am doing meaningful and helpful to other people?
- Why am I born? Why do I celebrate this birthday? What do I want to create in this world?
Questions for the group of people who gather:
- What do we, as a group of people, want to create/do on the birthday?
Evolving the culture of birthdays
Evolving the culture of birthdays is as important as evolving our ways of live – our values, our actions, our relationships, our food quality, our economic system and so on. The birthday always represents our lives and by evolving our birthdays we also evolve our lives.
Do we want to just buy gifts to people because they have birthdays? Do we want to give to people something they may not need at all? What is the effect of such action on the people who are receiving the gift? And what is the effect of such an action to us? Is the giving of gifts helping us evolve as human beings? Is it connected to what we really value? Is it in harmony with Nature?
Do we want to continue the old way only because it is a “tradition” or “normal” to do so? Or even if keep the tradition, can we fill this tradition with a new and creative meaning? Do the same, but from the heart, from what we really value?
It is possible! And you and I can do it right now! We don’t need somebody else to tell us how to do it, we are the creators! All what is needed is a decision, a choice.
Levels of consciousness on birthdays
If we look at how conscious are the people and what opportunities they have, we may also see how their level of consciousness is mirrored on their birthdays:
- Just an event – some people just gather because it is a tradition to gather with friends on birthdays. Resources (gifts, food, time) are exchanged just because it is a tradition to give and receive. Whether the exchanged resources are meaningful or have a positive effect is not considered. There is no special meaning beside the hollow tradition.
- A meaningful event – people know why they gather, there is something meaningful which is happening for the group who gathers on the birthday.
- A giving event – people know why they gather, there is something meaningful which is happening for other people. People gathers in order to give to other people what is needed and what they value.
A meaningful event is much more beautiful and from the heart than just an event. The difference between the meaningful and giving event is that on the giving event the positive effects go also to other people, not only to the group who gathers.
History
Here I share with you shortly how the idea come into being for me. Three years ago when I started to understand more about spirituality my values changed a lot and celebrating my birthday became very hard for me. Material things meant much less to me and I didn’t need them at that time. Everybody wanted to give me something on my birthday, but I found it hard to accept, because I didn’t really needed it and these people have spent money for that. I saw all this as waste of resources, time and thinking. People had also good intentions, they gave me spiritual books, because I value spirituality, but actually I didn’t need these books.
Two years I was stuck! And what I was stuck with was the old tradition of thinking – that on your birthday you receive gifts and people buy you stuff. Awful! Traditional thinking imposed on me since I was a kid.
Last year my mother, a mathematics school teacher, asked me again what I want for my birthday. I said again that I don’t need anything. But after few days the new thought came, that things do not have to be as they were. We can do what we want to do. I could do on my birthday not that which was traditional and normal, but I could do what really mattered to me. Then I told my mother to find a student from her school, in which she sees that it is worth to help him/her in some way and this help should be my birthday present. And she found one boy. His family wasn’t well financially so I decided to give them a computer they needed and also to connect them with good people. We exchanged a lot of email which were useful for me and them, and I send them the computer from Germany to Bulgaria. Unfortunately until now I didn’t have enough time to spend personally with the boy, but I believe that this opportunity will come. We are still in contact with this family. I learned a lot from this and may write about it in the future.
After that I was much more happier for my birthday because what I did mattered to me and was really helpful to other people. I saw that it is possible to turn unwanted situations into what we desire.
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